Being Happy

 

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There are so many articles out there that promise happiness if you do this or that or the other thing. It’s as if we were naturally living without happiness and need to get some in order to be truly happy.

What if that wasn’t true?

Of course, we all know what feeling miserable is about. Who doesn’t? But would you recognize what happiness feels like even if it bit you in the butt?

There are those folks who always think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. They will be jealous of their friends' dresses, boyfriends, and grades. No matter what, they always seem to be lacking in something.

So, lack of abundance is what bothers them.

There are others who can never seem to do enough. I might be in that group. No matter how much you write, there is always more to write. It’s a blessing, I can say, that I have great ideas so much of the time that beg to be written down. I am very grateful for that because there was a time when I couldn’t for the life of me come up with anything interesting to write about. I wonder what changed?

Perhaps it was how I thought of myself overall. Maybe I went from thinking of myself as a consistent loser to a person who is able to write.

You know something? I think all of this happens in stages. There is no one moment when things are this way and then, 20 minutes later, when things are that way.

Perhaps it has to do with our awareness. What was different between then and now for me? Nothing really. I was always me. I’m still me. It’s just now I write. I write a lot of the time. I could sit here for the next ten hours and be happy writing. I probably wouldn’t be able to walk once I got up from my chair, but yes, it has happened like that.

So, if your world is basically the same from the moment you think everything is crap and you aren’t happy to the moment when you’ve changed your attitude, everything is the same as it was before, but now you are happy. The only thing that changed is how you view your world.

Part of my learning how to do that was, interestingly enough, cranky people. I know you’ve got a few in your life. These are the bad boys. These are the co-workers who stab you in the back every chance they’ve got, so that they can get ahead. These are the relatives you can’t divorce who have never, nor will they ever, support you in what you want to do.

I was trying to reconcile the idea that everybody has worth. That everybody’s soul, their most inner being, was a happy one. It was difficult, and it really took me years. Even now, I will backslide with it when I think about politics.

I asked myself, “Why do people do bad things?”

I mean, this took years, and I’m still working on it. But, I think, for the most part, I tend to think optimistically rather than negatively.

I also had to learn to forgive myself. A lot. That has taken me years, and again, is something I do over and over again.

What you can do is compare how you are now with how you were then and ask yourself what is different?

Something that happened to me over the years is that I bounce back faster than I did. Something would happen to derail me, and I might spend a very long time getting back on my horse. Now, when that happens, I am able to come back faster. Now, if my husband were to die, that would be an entirely different matter, and that, I think, would have to be the worst thing that ever happened to me.

What I’m talking about is when the refrigerator, the internet, and my website were to go haywire all in the same month, which actually happened to me last August. It took me a while to get back on my horse and back to my regularly scheduled writing, but it also reminded me not to let minor things like that derail my plans as much as they did.

I have to say I’m the better person for it. Perhaps it was a cosmically arranged lesson just for me.

I’m a psychic. I’ve been a channel since 1993, and sometimes I can “see” psychically. It’s sort of like looking at one of those Magic-Eye pictures where I catch a glimpse of something going on in my mind’s eye. When I said the “cosmically arranged lesson” in the previous paragraph, I caught sight of a few people in spirit laughing up the sleeves of their robes. Just saying.

So that also adds something to the idea of happiness. And that is laughter. If you have trouble with that, smile right now as you are reading this. Not because it’s necessarily funny, but just because when you smile, you can lighten your own mood.

If this has taken me years to do and I recognize that I’m still not done, but that I have made progress, that might make this one of those life lessons.

Try to imagine, even with the three jobs you have now, all the cantankerous people in your life, your car that sometimes doesn’t want to work, with all of that going on, try to imagine that you are happy.

That is the first step.

Hey, thanks for reading. Explore the other places I’m at on the Internet. See you in the dreamtime.

Love,

🌺 Pauline Evanosky

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