Don’t Be Afraid

 


What was the spookiest part about awakening my psychic senses? I really didn’t know what I was doing.

On the one hand, I had people in books (no internet in those days) who were guiding me along. Doing what they said would help me to reach out and be more in tune with my inner self. That’s what they said. That’s what I expected. That’s not what happened. Well, it sort of happened, but in the striving, I found all these detours along the way that needed to be addressed.

Like learning how to dance. Sure, you’ve got the moves, but do you have the rhythm?

Anyway, for years I kept trying. Nothing seemed to work. However, what was going on isn’t something anybody told me I needed to change. I still haven’t found that particular advice anywhere. All I know is it had to happen for me to move forward, not only with opening my psychic senses but just, in general, having a happy life.

Well, so what was it? This isn’t clickbait, is it?

No, but I’m afraid to tell you.

Why?

Well, you’ll think it’s stupid.

Okay, here it goes. I had to be brave. I had to learn not to be afraid. I had to be more like a kid with an adventure and not some sissy who can’t seem to get a breath outside of the house.

What?

I’m serious. I had to learn how to live and let live. Sure, you could go around and say things like, “Well, it’s not fair. They shouldn’t act like that.” Life is not fair.

I had to learn how to live with disappointment and not dwell on it. I had to learn to get up, dust off the seat of my pants, and move forward anyway.

I had to learn how to keep my dreams alive.

I had to become an optimist. At least, more of an optimist than I already was. My name is Pauline…Pollyanna…Miss Goodie Two-Shoes. I had to learn to be upbeat. I also had to learn that there are ups and downs in life.

I had to learn to have faith in God and in myself.

Now, if I had a person in front of me who said, “I want to be psychic too.” The first thing I would tell them is they can’t be afraid.

No, there aren’t bad spirits out there. However, there are injured and sometimes confused spirits out there. If you were five years old and with a grown-up who suddenly lost control of a heavy piece of equipment, like a chainsaw. They start screaming. You react to the screaming and start screaming yourself. It all escalates into one big fat screaming fest. Well, you can’t do that.

This is where you learn about creating boundaries in your psychic life. Can you create boundaries in your regular life? Can you tell your best friend to stop with the bickering and jealous behavior because you don’t like it? I’ll bet you can’t. Can you tell your sister-in-law that if she is late one more time, you’re going to stop inviting her places? I’ll bet not. The next best move is for you to learn to live with it, adjust, and allow them to act out or act up. No skin off your nose. You go ahead with your life, and what they do just doesn’t affect you anymore. It’s like water rolling off a duck’s back.

Or you take the really big step, the one every single one of your relatives is going to have a problem with, and you distance yourself from all of them. That is the one that really works. At least for your immediate problems. However, because you haven’t dealt with the problem properly, the same sort of circumstances will keep popping up until you take care of it. Funny how your higher self will take care of that one for you. I mean, you don’t want to be dealing with these issues for the next 850 years, do you?

Learning to accept what you have to and change what you can is the goal. This is what you do with a job you’ve had for years. You live out in the country. There are probably not that many job opportunities in the area. What do you do with horrible co-workers? You learn to live with them. Maybe you can make some changes, like get them fired. I wouldn’t count on it. They’re probably related to the boss in some way.

These are not particularly psychic problems; however, the same stuff will keep happening there, too. You will have a time when every time you turn around, somebody is asking you why life isn’t fair, when they are going to find “Mr. Right,” and when they are going to get rich.

By the way, Mr. Right doesn’t show up until you learn to love yourself.

A funny one I hadn’t expected was to have to ask the FIS (Folk in Spirit) to stop talking at once. I call that the “One at a time” rule. Also, stop waking me up at 3 am to talk. I was sleeping. I have to go to work the next day. Cut that out! It’s not so bad now because I’m retired and can always sleep in or take a nap later in the day. But in my life as a Virgo, things were generally orderly. As a psychic with all the new people in Spirit, I met, I had to keep a semblance of order. You know what would be really funny? If, after I die, they all have a good laugh at me, which I figure is going to happen. Rules for Spooks. Sounds like a title for a book. Or, for a chapter somewhere.

It’s actually like a kid learning how to be a grown-up. It works best if you’re not afraid of everything. You’re going to be having psychic stuff going on in your dreams. I didn’t know that was going to happen. You’ve already got a bunch of senses. All of these will be super senses at times. Some more than others. I can’t hear much these days, yet I am clairaudient. That’s how I hear Spirit. Ah, a channeling funny for you. Somebody in Spirit just said, “What?”  I’d put a name to it, but you’d likely not believe me. Oh, he’s saying he’d be pleased. It was Jimmy Carter.

One last thing, though I can actually think of 101 more things to say, is that I’m so glad I tried my hardest to awaken my psychic self. Even though for the longest time it didn’t seem like anything was working, I kept at it. Even when there were people in my life concerned about me and my “obsession”, though my husband supported me every minute of the way. I’m glad I did it. I couldn’t imagine my life any other way.

But the biggest thing is not to be afraid. There are going to be a lot of little bumps in the night you can’t identify until you can.

Thanks for reading. I publish on Sundays and Tuesdays here at TalkingtoSpirit.com. See you next time.

🌺 Pauline Evanosky

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